My mom guilt has been on overdrive lately. 😩
Between managing our business, starting my new night shift and being there for my husband & the kids, there are moments where I feel like I’m failing at everything. I feel guilty when I’m working and not with them. I feel guilty when I’m just here at the house, so close to them, but my mind, if not on the business, is on my new job.
I know I’m not alone. I see so many moms out there carrying this heavy weight. We feel guilty for being tired. Guilty for being not okay everyday. Guilty for just wanting ten minutes of peace. Guilty for wanting to have a me-time. Guilty for eating that last piece of chocolate. Guilty for making mistake. Guilty for not being that perfect mom. And the list goes on and on and on.
But today, as I was talking to my mom best friend, I realized something that changed my perspective: It's okay to feel that mom guilt!
In fact, I’ve stopped looking at that guilt as a sign that I’m a bad mom. Instead, I see it for what it truly is and that is a living proof how much I love my kids. (I love you Milly and Marcus so much!) Think about it. If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t feel guilty. If you weren't trying your best to give them the world, you wouldn't worry about making mistakes. That sting in your heart? That’s just your pure love pouring all out from your mommy heart.
So, to my fellow moms who are currently hiding in the bathroom for a cry or feeling bad because they chose a nap over a chore, or for not making it in time because you were busy with all the hustle: Hinga nang malalim. You're not a bad mom. Your guilt isn't a reflection of your failures. It’s a reflection of your love for your kids. So the next time that Mom Guilt whispers that you aren't enough, remind yourself: I feel this guilt because I love them SO much.
We are not perfect, but we are exactly what our children need. Yakap sa lahat ng nanay na pagod pero patuloy na lumalaban. We’ve got this. 🤍